Luise Thye-Østergaard QA - new

Luise is brave enough to stand up for herself.

She has built up her courage - overcame her fears and today experiences the joy of standing up for herself in private as well as professionally.
She has embarked on a journey – driven by a single question – who am I?
The first thing she learned was that she was anything but her upbringing, anything but her titles, anything but other people's expectations and not least anything but society's norms.
In the summer of 2017, she appeared in several Danish media with what she calls the love experiment - where she lives with 2 men, one she is married to, the other she shares a bed with.
She divided the waters - was loved and hated but she stood up for what she is - for one reason only, namely that she is passionate about inspiring others to find the courage to stand up for themselves and their own needs.
Because she has experienced firsthand the joy it brings.
AND – as she herself says:
"I don't think many choose our solution, but if they can look at me and say to themselves, if Luise is brave enough to do that, then I'm also brave enough to do the little thing that makes the big thing difference to me.”


Luise Thye-Østergaard

Are you brave enough to stand up for what's yours?

I have embarked on a journey of a lifetime – drawn by a single question – who am I?
First I found that I was not all my titles and all that I had achieved - NO - I was something completely different if I stopped and gave myself time and space to feel what my feelings were actually telling me – then I experienced sides of myself that I had suppressed, held back, or quite simply had never seen. I saw sides of myself that I couldn't see fit into my self-image and the society I live in - BUT I found the courage and overcame the fear that others would put me, my children and my family off. I stood by me - and in that space I experienced a new strength, a new creativity and an authenticity that could only emerge if I found the courage to be me. Me regardless of norms, expectations and ideas - just me.
So who am I – who are you? This is the question that Luise Thye-Østergaard asks, because the more you stand by what is you, the better version of yourself you become in your private and professional life.


Er du modig nok til at stå ved det, der er dig?

Jeg har begivet mig ud på en livsrejse – draget af et eneste spørgsmål – hvem er jeg?
Først fandt jeg ud af, at jeg ikke var alle mine titler og alt det jeg havde opnået – NEJ – jeg var noget helt andet, hvis jeg stoppede op og gav mig selv tid og rum til at mærke, hvad mine følelser rent faktisk fortalte mig – så oplevede jeg sider af mig selv, jeg havde undertrykt, holdt tilbage, eller ganske simpelt aldrig havde set. Jeg så sider af mig selv, jeg ikke kunne se passe ind i mit selvbillede og det samfund jeg lever i – MEN jeg fandt modet og overvandt frygten for, at andre ville udskyde mig, mine børn og min familie. Jeg stod ved mig – og i det rum oplevede jeg en ny styrke, en ny kreativitet og en autentisitet, der kun kunne komme frem ved, at jeg fandt modet til at være mig. Mig uagtet normer, forventninger og forestillinger – bare mig.
Så hvem er jeg – hvem er du? Det er spørgsmålet, som Luise Thye-Østergaard stiller, fordi des mere du står ved det, der er dig, des bedre udgave af dig selv bliver du i det private som i det professionelle.


Hvem er du uden dine titler?

Who are you without your titles?

Personal effectiveness

Identity

Balance

Lifestyle

Would you like to hear more than what you have read about in the appetizer lecture "What is the worst that can happen?".

So let's get together and tailor a workshop or in-depth lecture that suits you, your company, your organization - your needs.
What's the worst that could happen? This is the question that I have asked myself most times in my life. Every single time I have experienced that fear has come knocking, I have asked myself the question. And every single time the answer has been one in which I have almost only been able to pull on the smiley face. Simply because my fear has been irrational.
I learned to understand how the power of thought and emotional understanding go hand in hand when it comes to driving fear into the ground and maintaining calm. A calmness that is essential for us to be present as who we are both privately and professionally.
If you want to keep calm and believe in yourself so that you stand up for yourself privately as well as professionally, let's work together to build courage, overcome fear and experience the joy of standing by you.
Together with Luise Thye-Østergaard tailors in the workshop - but these areas will be the focal point:
1. Rational and Irrational Fear
2. Emotions
3. Rejection
4. Trust and Control
5. Build Courage
6. Overcome Fear
7. Experience the joy of standing by you - privately as well as professionally
The exercise will be to put into words what your fear is and what will it take to overcome it? And one of the important questions that is asked: Who is it really that rejects you?
At the workshop max. 30 participants.


Vil du gerne høre mere, end det du har læst om i appetizer-foredraget “Hvad er det værste, der kan ske?”.

Så lad os sætte os sammen og skræddersy en workshop eller dybdegående foredrag, der passer til netop jer, jeres virksomhed, jeres organisation – jeres behov.
Hvad er det værste, der kan ske? Det er det spørgsmål, som jeg har stillet mig selv flest gange i livet. Hver eneste gang jeg har oplevet, at frygten har banket på, så har jeg stillet mig selv spørgsmålet. Og hver eneste gang har svaret været et, hvor jeg næsten kun har kunnet trække på smilebåndet. Simpelthen fordi min frygt har være irrationel.
Jeg lærte at forstå hvordan tankens kraft og følelsesforståelse går hånd i hånd, når det handler om at mane frygten i jorden og bevare roen. En ro der er afgørende for, at vi kan være tilstede, som dem vi er både privat og professionelt.
Vil du gerne bevare roen og troen på dig selv, så du står op for dig selv privat som professionelt, så lad os i fællesskab arbejde med, at opbygge mod, overvinde frygt og opleve glæden ved at du står ved dig.
Sammen med Luise Thye-Østergaard skræddersyer i workshoppen – men disse områder, vil være omdrejningspunktet:
1. Rationel og Irrationel Frygt
2. Følelser
3. Afvisning
4. Tillid og Kontrol
5. Opbyg Mod
6. Overvind Frygt
7. Oplev Glæden ved at stå ved dig – privat som professionelt
Øvelsen bliver at sætte ord på, hvad er din frygt, og hvad skal der til for at overvinde den? Og et af de vigtige spørgsmål der bliver stillet: Hvem er det egentlig, der afviser dig?
Ved workshop max. 30 deltagere.


Hvad er det værste, der kan ske?

What's the worst that could happen?

You know that feeling of getting angry but actually being sad?

Most people hide their feelings without even realizing it, and why? This is because we have an innate mechanism that when we get upset, our masculine anger kicks in and protects the wounded feminine self. But what happens if we understand our feelings and get better at putting them into words, can we avoid getting angry to a greater extent? YES look – I claim that.
I, Luise Thye-Østergaard, have experienced what a joy it has been for me to learn to understand my feelings, so that I can stand by them and thereby stand by me in my own half of the court. And just staying in one's own half of the court makes communication with other people far easier, far more caring and far more appropriate - in private life as well as professionally.
So now the question for you is: How is communication?


Kender du følelsen af at blive vred, men rent faktisk være ked af det?

De fleste mennesker skjuler deres følelser, uden helt at være klar over det, og hvorfor? Det er fordi, vi har en medfødt mekanisme, der gør, at når vi bliver kede af det, så træder vores maskuline vrede i karakter og beskytter det sårede feminine jeg. Men hvad sker der, hvis vi forstår vores følelser og bliver bedre til at sætte ord på dem, kan vi så i højere grad undgår at blive vrede? JA se – det påstår jeg.
Jeg, Luise Thye-Østergaard, har oplevet, hvilken glæde det har været for mig at lære at forstå mine følelser, så jeg kan stå ved dem og derigennem stå ved mig på egen banehalvdel. Og netop det med at blive på egen banehalvdel gør, at kommunikationen med andre mennesker bliver langt lettere, langt mere omsorgsfuld og langt mere hensigtsmæssig – i privaten som i det professionelle.
Så nu er spørgsmålet til dig: Hvordan står det til med kommunikationen?


Tør du sætte ord på dine følelser?

Do you dare to put your feelings into words?

Would you like to hear more than what you have read about in the appetizer lecture "Do you dare to put your feelings into words"?

So let's get together and tailor a workshop or an in-depth lecture that suits you, your company, your organization - your needs.
One day I was standing in the kitchen looking forward to my husband coming through the door. And the moment he walks in the door, I get angry at him - absolutely for no reason. Precisely because of this, an otherwise happy man became angry with me. The fact that he got angry with me made me so startled and so sad that I had to say sorry. Just give me 5-10 minutes, I just need to figure out why I got angry when I was actually standing in the kitchen looking forward to you coming home.
It occurred to me that I was envious of him, here I was stirring the meat pots and happy he came home from work and had made money. I wanted to too - but only at the moment when it became clear to me that it was my envy that had made me angry, we could have a quiet conversation about how we could solve it together. And this is where I want to go - we must dare to put our feelings into words BUT first we need to understand what it is that our feelings are trying to tell us.
So if you can see the value in staying on your own side by putting into words your feelings, what makes you angry, envious or sad, and which by putting into words actually means that it can be solved together – if only you are brave enough to put the right words on it. So what do you think is happening?
Luise Thye-Østergaard tailors it together with you - but these areas will be the focal point:
1. Communication based on you
2. Mirroring
3. Emotions
4. Masculine and Feminine
The exercise is for you to become aware that anger often covers up another emotion, but which one? And the question we ask is: Do you want to understand your feelings so that it becomes easier to put into words how you feel?
At the workshop max. 30 participants.


Vil du gerne høre mere, end det du har læst om i appetizer-foredraget “Tør du sætte ord på dine følelser”?

Så lad os sætte os sammen og skræddersy en workshop eller et dybdegående foredrag, der passer til netop jer, jeres virksomhed, jeres organisation – jeres behov.
En dag stod jeg i køkkenet og glædede mig, til min mand skulle komme ind ad døren. Og i det øjeblik hvor han træder ind ad døren, så bliver jeg vred på ham – absolut uden grund. Netop derfor, så blev en ellers glad mand vred på mig. Det at han blev vred på mig gjorde mig så forskrækket og så ked af det, at jeg måtte sige undskyld. Giv mig lige 5-10 minutter, jeg er simpelthen nød til at finde ud af, hvorfor jeg blev vred, når jeg rent faktisk stod i køkkenet og glædede mig til, at du skulle komme hjem.
Det gik op for mig, at jeg var misundelig på ham, her stod jeg og rørte i kødgryderne og glad kom han hjem fra arbejde og havde tjent penge. Det ville jeg også – men først i det øjeblik, hvor det blev mig klart, at det var min misundelse, der havde fået mig til at blive vred, kunne vi have en stille og rolig samtale om, hvordan vi kunne løse det i fællesskab. Og det er her jeg vil hen – vi skal turde sætte ord på vores følelser MEN først er vi nød til at forstå, hvad det er, som vores følelser forsøger at fortælle os.
Så hvis du kan se værdien i at blive på egen banehalvdel ved at sætte ord på dine følelser, det der gør dig vred, misundelig eller ked af det, og som ved at du sætte ord på rent faktisk gør, at det kan løses i fællesskab – hvis bare du er modig nok til at sætte de rigtige ord på. Hvad tror du så der sker?
Luise Thye-Østergaard skræddersyer den sammen med jer – men disse områder, vil være omdrejningspunktet:
1. Kommunikation med afsæt i dig
2. Spejling
3. Følelser
4. Maskulin og Feminin
Øvelsen går på, at du skal blive opmærksom på, at vreden ofte dækker over en anden følelse, men hvilken? Og Spørgsmålet, som vi stiller er: Vil du forstå dine følelser, så det bliver lettere at sætte ord på, hvordan du har det?
Ved workshop max. 30 deltagere.


Do you know the feeling that fear almost paralyzes you?

The fear of being rejected for who you are and being left alone is a feeling that many people live with and are controlled by. But what is with fear beyond the fact that in primeval times it was crucial for our survival, because we got a shot of stress hormone when danger arose. Back then the danger was rational, today it is irrational, where most people walk around at work in "alarm readiness", but now it is not for survival, now it is for fear of the reaction of a boss, a colleague or a partner.
The fear of being rejected for who you are? But what's the worst that can happen - that others reject you - OR that you reject yourself? Can you see the difference? In this lecture, Luise Thye-Østergaard does NOT talk about the brain and the way the amygdala reacts to irrational danger. Instead, we talk about how you can train your courage and overcome your fear, so that the amygdala eventually learns that there is no danger in fewer people. Do you dare?


Kender du følelsen af, at frygten nærmest handlingslammer dig?

Frygten for at blive afvist som den du er og stå alene tilbage, det er en følelse, som rigtig mange mennesker lever med og styres af. Men hvad er der med frygten ud over, at den i urtiden var afgørende for vores overlevelse, fordi vi fik et skud stress-hormon, når der opstod fare. Dengang var faren rationel i dag er den irrationel, hvor de fleste mennesker går rundt på arbejdet i ”alarmberedskab”, men nu er det ikke for overlevelse, nu er det af frygt for reaktionen fra en chef, en kollega, eller en partner.
Frygten for at blive afvist som den du er? Men hvad er det værste der kan ske – at andre afviser dig – ELLER at du afviser dig selv? Kan du se forskellen? I dette foredrag snakker Luise Thye-Østergaard IKKE om hjernen og måden hvorpå amygdala reagerer på irrationel fare. I stedet snakker vi om, hvordan du kan træne dit mod og overvinde din frygt, så amygdala til sidst lærer, at der ikke er fare på færre. Tør du?


Would you like to hear more than what you read about in the appetizer lecture "Who are you without your titles"?

So let's get together and tailor a workshop or an in-depth lecture that suits you, your company, your organization - your needs.
When I, Luise Thye-Østergaard, suddenly found myself without work because I had been fired, I experienced firsthand how I met new people who asked me, "What do you do?" And when I honestly answered "I've been fired and am out of a job." Then in many cases there was complete silence and people looked away.
It started with a feeling of shame in me, but I quickly realized that I was much more than the job that had said goodbye to me. I was more and more than my titles and what I had achieved in my life - but how could I put into words who I was without my titles?
That question became my driving force, to set out on my life's journey driven by a single question – who am I?
We tailor the workshop together - but these areas will form the structure:
1. Identity – Who are you?
2. Are you your titles?
3. Are you your upbringing?
4. Are you your work?
5. Are you your feelings?
The exercise will be to put into words who we are without our marital status, educations, titles and work etc. And the most important question we ask ourselves in this workshop: Who am I? And what can I use that knowledge for?
At the workshop max. 30 participants.


Vil du gerne høre mere, end det du har læst om i appetizer-foredraget “Hvem er du uden dine titler”?

Så lad os sætte os sammen og skræddersy en workshop eller et dybdegående foredrag, der passer til netop jer, jeres virksomhed, jeres organisation – jeres behov.
Da jeg, Luise Thye-Østergaard, pludselig stod uden arbejde, fordi jeg var blevet fyret, så oplevede jeg på egen krop, hvordan jeg mødte nye mennesker, der spurgte mig, ”hvad laver du så?” Og da jeg ærligt svarede ”Jeg er blevet fyret og er uden job.” Så blev der i mange tilfælde helt stille og folk så væk.
Det startede med en følelse af skam hos mig, men jeg blev hurtigt klar over, at jeg var meget mere end det arbejde, der havde sagt farvel til mig. Jeg var mere og andet end mine titler og det jeg havde opnået i mit liv – men hvordan skulle jeg sætte ord på, hvem jeg var uden mine titler?
Det spørgsmål blev min drivkraft, til at begive mig ud på min livsrejse drevet af et eneste spørgsmål – hvem er jeg?
Vi skræddersyer workshoppen sammen – men disse områder, vil danne strukturen:
1. Identitet – Hvem er du?
2. Er du dine titler?
3. Er du din opvækst?
4. Er du dit arbejde?
5. Er du dine følelser?
Øvelsen bliver at sætte ord på, hvem vi er uden vores civiltilstand, uddannelser, titler og arbejde mm. Og det vigtigste spørgsmål vi stiller os selv i denne workshop: Hvem er jeg? Og hvad kan jeg bruge den viden til?
Ved workshop max. 30 deltagere.


Luise er modig nok til at stå ved sig selv.

Hun har opbygget sit mod – overvundet sin frygt og oplever i dag glæden ved at stå ved sig selv i det private som i det professionelle.
Hun har begivet sig ud på en rejse – draget af et eneste spørgsmål – hvem er jeg?
Det første hun erfarede var, at hun var alt andet end hendes opvækst, alt andet en hendes titler, alt andet end andres forventninger og ikke mindst alt andet end samfundets normer.
I sommeren 2017 stod hun frem i flere danske medier med det hun kalder kærlighedseksperimentet – hvor hun lever med 2 mænd, den ene er hun gift med, den anden deler hun seng med.
Hun delte vandene – var elsket og hadet men hun stod op for det, hun er – af en eneste årsag, nemlig at hun brænder for at inspirere andre til at finde modet til at stå ved sig selv og egne behov.
Fordi hun på egne krop har erfaret, hvilken glæde det fører med sig.
OG – som hun selv siger:
”Jeg tror ikke mange vælger vores løsning, men hvis de kan se på mig og sige til sig selv, hvis Luise er modig nok til at gøre det der, så er jeg også modig nok til at gøre den lille ting, der gør den store forskel for mig.”


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